You thought marriage would fill you—but now you feel kind of… empty.
You love your spouse. You’re grateful, most days.
But the spark is dim. The connection feels flat.
And secretly, you’re wondering:
“Is this it?”
If that’s you, I need to tell you something (with love):
Marriage was never meant to complete you.
Where We Got This Idea
Hollywood. Instagram. Church sermons taken out of context.
Somewhere along the line, we got the idea that finding “the one” would fix all our wounds.
That love would finally make us feel whole.
But here’s what I’ve seen—again and again—as a Christian marriage therapist:
The moment you expect your partner to be your peace, your purpose, or your salvation… is the moment they’re guaranteed to let you down.
Only God Can Complete You
Your partner can support you—but they can’t center you.
They can walk beside you—but they can’t heal your soul.
That role was never meant for another human. It belongs to Jesus.
When we put our spouse (or our kids, or ourselves) at the top of the hierarchy, we end up disappointed, burnt out, or resentful.
But when we put God first, everything else falls into healthier alignment.
What This Looks Like in Marriage Therapy
- Taking radical responsibility for your own growth
- Rebuilding connection from a place of overflow, not neediness
- Learning to love with grace, not control
- Recognizing when your expectations are spiritual, not relational
- Letting your partner off the hook for being your Savior
This is where true intimacy begins—not from “completing” each other, but from walking together, whole in Christ.
Marriage Is a Gift—Not a God
It’s a tool for sanctification.
A mirror for your patterns.
A daily reminder that love isn’t always a feeling—it’s a decision.
And it’s so much richer when you stop trying to extract your worth from it.
If You’re Craving Something Deeper—You’re Not Alone
Let’s untangle what’s real, what’s repairable, and what’s yours to lay down at the cross.
Message Me & Let’s See If We’re a Good Fit.
Virtual Christian couples therapy across Texas—with honesty, grace, and room to grow.
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